Libido is the desire for sex, if we feel like it or simply not. Libido differences are a normal every day occurrence in sexual relationships.
Libidos are naturally fluctuating and depend on many life influences. If libido conflicts are left untreated they may result in relationship upheaval or break up. The 'higher libido' partner may feel frustrated and angry because their 'lower libido' partner cannot meet their needs. The 'lower libido' partner may feel increasingly anxious, stressed, angry and under undue pressure and may avoid intimate situations altogether because they feel unable to meet their partners sexual expectations - a vicious cycle.
Sex therapists treat couples with libido issues every day. Commonly more women present with low libido, but it would be a mistake to assume that low libido is a female sexual dysfunction. I treat is an increasing number of men in their mid twenties and forties who's relationships threaten to break up because they simply don't feel like sex.
In some cases the disorder may originate from abnormal low testosterone/androgen levels. A simple blood test and hormone replacement treatment by a qualified medical practitioner may remedy the condition.
More often however, low energy, boredom, toxic stress, a too busy life style, hormonal roller coster after giving birth and/or breast feeding, other hormonal imbalances, the strains of raising a family, relationship discord, depression, worry, a poor understanding of sex and sexuality, poor health, illness, certain medications, alcohol or drug abuse, a lack of privacy, obesity, a lack of physical exercise, and many more overlooked life factors can act as contributors to distress, all capable to suppress libido.
Professional counselling and sex therapy provided by AFFIRMOTIVE have had success in treating libido mismatch effectively.
If you have further questions how to improve your sexual relationship please call Heide during office hours on 02 9386 5656.
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