Wednesday, February 3, 2016

TREATING SEX ADDICTION EFFECTIVELY


Psychology has made great inroads towards the treatment of sex addiction over the last few years and what was previously seen as an untreatable addiction, now has specialist care and treatment plans available.

In the past, society saw sex addiction as a moral issue, one that showed a person’s failure in willpower towards their libido and desires. But as research became more available, it became apparent sexual addiction disorder is not gender-specific, and can occur in men and women from all types of socio-economic backgrounds.

When untreated sex addiction is defined by the inability to control sexual impulses, escalations of sexual acts, thoughts, and cravings, and by the addict's inability to curb their behaviour, despite them knowing that negative affect their addiction is having on those around them.
Initially, treatment for sex addiction usually focuses on two main issues and then deals with the individual’s personal history.

The first step is to often move you away from the potentially harmful sexual behavior, just like an alcoholic should be moved away from alcohol, or the same way drug addicts need to be separated from drugs.

The second and sometimes, most difficult issue for many addicts, is facing the damage done and the guilt, shame and depression that goes with their compulsion. It can take time to learn to trust your therapist to be able to work through these emotions. In some cases of sexual addiction, other psychiatric disorders may underlay. A dual treatment approach is recommended in such circumstances, and can include treatments with specific prescription medication to alleviate symptoms of mood disorders, anxiety and depression, and a specialist sex addiction counselling and psychotherapy program involving trauma treatment, healing the past, short term and long-term relapse prevention plans, and developing relationship and connection skills, and healthy boundaries to intimacy and sexuality.

TRADITIONAL TREATMENT METHODS FOR SEX ADDICTS INCLUDE OPTIONS, SUCH AS

12-Step Program
Twelve-step programs, such as Sex Addicts Anonymous, uses principles like in other addiction programs, such as Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous. Sex Addicts Anonymous focuses on abstinence, from destructive sexual behavior that can put you and others in danger. There is a focus on God in this treatment but you can replace God with whatever higher power you may believe in.

Cognitive-Behavior Therapy
This is a type of therapy that looks at what triggers and reinforces your behaviour around sexual addiction, and helps you to seek other ways stopping the process or train of thought that leads you to action. By teaching addicts to stop sexual thoughts by thinking about something else; and substituting sexual behavior with some other behavior, such as exercising or working out; it can prevent relapse of sexually addictive behaviour.

Group Therapy
Group therapy usually consists of a trained professional working with a group of between six and ten patients, all of whom have the same addiction. Sharing your experiences, successes and worries with the group can help you see you’re not alone

RESEARCH BASED TREATMENT METHODS USED AT SEX ADDICTION AUSTRALIA

Sex Addiction Australia chooses a clinical approach to treating sexual compulsive behaviours based on findings of modern international brain research. We combine aspects of neuroscience with sex addiction therapy, trauma counselling, sexual health counselling,  sex therapy, cognitive behaviour therapy, and selected forms of psychotherapy. We provide intensive relapse prevention plans that are adapted to our clients personal circumstances. Furthermore, we offer caring counselling for spouses of sex addicts to overcome their, often extreme, emotional pain and Sex Addiction Induced Trauma or SAI-T, and healing for couples though sex addiction focused relationship and marriage counselling; all conducted in our friendly outpatient private practise setting as intensive one-on-one sessions, without disrupting normal life unnecessarily.

Interpersonal Therapy
Sex addicts can often have a traumatic early childhood history, leading into their teen years and young adulthood, which may have influenced their sexual addiction development. Specialist sex addiction counselling, including trauma counselling, is helpful in alleviating emotional pain and increasing self control and self awareness, and in treating any mood disorders and effects of past trauma.

Medication
In some cases of sexual addiction disorder, counsel from a psychiatrist and treatment medication may be considered. Some people may develop addiction disorders due to other underlying and unrecognised psychiatric problems. Sex Addiction Australia recommends a dual treatment approach in some circumstances.

There has been much research into antidepressants and their effect in treating sexual addiction. Not only does it help mood disorders, which are common among sex addicts, they can help reduce sexual obsessions and thoughts. And there are modern therapies, which are a mixture of proven counselling techniques, sex therapies and adapting to the specific needs of the recovering sex addict.

It is important to remember that throughout any treatment process, the goal is to be able to live a normal life, with a normal sex life. Clients develop the tools needed to understand their compulsion and triggers for acting out, and to set healthy boundaries, working toward genuine self-esteem and stable intimacy with their partner.



Wednesday, September 23, 2015

PARTNERS OF SEX ADDICTS HELP


SEX ADDICTION INDUCED TRAUMA 

Sex Addiction Induced Trauma or SAI-T, is a specific type of psychological trauma that results from the direct impact of having a sex addicted partner and has lasting effects on their mental health, physical well-being.

Sex addiction-induced trauma is particularly acute around discoveries (finding out about sexual acting out, deception and relational violations), disclosures (being told about sexual acting out, deception and relational violations) and around the continued traumatic incidents that result from the presence of sexual addiction in an intimate relationship and family system. 

Partners often present with a set of symptoms related to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD), including re-experiencing of the trauma, social and emotional isolation, constant triggering and reactivity of old issues, significant anxiety, hyper-vigilance, dissociative symptoms, and sexual trauma symptoms.

When someone learns that their partner is a sex addict, it causes extreme distress. The trust between the couple is broken and the partner often wonders if they can possibly have a future.

The shame and embarrassment in the couples might be something so significant that they can’t confront the damage that has been done to their relationship.

In the sex addict, feelings anxiety, guilt, isolation and loneliness can occur, often all at once, and fear and panic can arise, about the state of their health, since they may have exposed themselves and their partner to sexually transmitted diseases.

Naturally, this has a detrimental effect on the relationship, since the emotional and physical trust has been damaged.

The communication between the couple is damaged once the sex addiction is disclosed, and the world which the partner once knew has been blown part, to the point their relationship may not feel real anymore.

The disclosure can also cause a variety of physical reactions triggering of eating disorders, alcohol binging, depression, weight loss or weight gain, vomiting, shaking, hair loss (sometimes extreme), defecation, insomnia and sleep disturbance, psycho-emotional dissociation, crying episodes, physical expressions of rage, hyper-vigilance, muscular constrictions, stomach sickness, aversion to physical or sexual touch and many more.

There is also the actual practicalities that the disclose may affect, such as partner’s moving out of the shared house, or children being involved and the partner wishing to protect them. In some cases, the sex-addicted party may leave the home, leaving the partner to have to hold down the fort, and thus become more stressed from the pressure.

Ongoing anxiety and the overwhelming need to check on your partner can also occur, with it often becoming hyper vigilant in trying to ‘catch your partner out,’ again. This is a form of trauma where the mind continually revisit the disclosure and you relive it over and over, as you’re waiting to find out about the disclosure again.

Being continually lied to, and being told you’re paranoid, or the problem with you is called ‘gaslighting’. It is a process in which the addict intentionally manipulates a partner’s reality in order to protect reality and the truth from becoming known or discovered by the partner.  This is a form of psychological manipulation and can slowly erode the confidence and intuition in a partner of a sex addict.

It is important for the partner of a sex addict who may be suffering from SAI-T, to recognise that they are important and deserve to get help to work through any physical and psychological impacts by the consequences of the sex addiction and find ways to help yourself through this difficult time.
Treatments include one-on-one therapy, and group therapy, with your partner, to help them and yourself understand the trauma and how to best move forward.

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

SEX ADDICTION RESEARCH REMOVES STIGMA

At Sex Addiction Australia we have always supported the notion of sexual addiction as a treatable disorder of the brain.

Unfortunately, the belief sex addiction is immoral and reckless behavior is still a widespread stigmatizing belief, preventing many suffers to seek appropriate therapy. It is not uncommon for sex addicts to remain undetected over decades, and only step forward when their lives have spiraled out of control, families are threatened to break up, or jobs and money may be lost due to sex addiction.

The encouraging new research by Dr. Valerie Voon, Cambridge University, UK marks a step forward to universal acceptance of sexual addiction as a diagnosable and identifiable disorder of the brain.

Dr. Voon and her team researched brain involvement in a particular area of sexual addiction, pornography addiction, using fMRI, establishing pathological responses to explicit sexual material shown to study samples with pre-excising compulsive sexual behavior (CSB), and comparing to a control group without CSB. This research revealed changes in three significant regions of the brains of individuals with CSB;
  • Dorsal anterior cingulate, (anticipating rewards)
  • Ventral striatum, (processing rewards) 
  • Amygdala, (processing the significance of emotions and events)
These brain responses were found to be compatible to previously researched brain responses in drug addicts. Drug addiction is a confirmed addiction, and is included in the DMS 5.

Dr.Voon's research supports the 2011 definition of addiction, released by the American Society of Addiction Medicine (ASAM), stating 'addiction is a primary chronic disease of brain reward, motivation, memory and related circuitry, and not simply a behavioral problem involving too much alcohol, drugs, gambling, and sex'. The affected individual pathologically pursues reward and/or relief by sexual behaviors, substance behavior, and/or other behaviors.


Much more research is needed to fully understand the nature of sexual addictions, and why some individuals addict, and others do not.

It is encouraging to know that sexual addiction gains recognition and acceptance. Sex Addiction Australia provide effective, holistic and proven treatment for sexual addiction since 2005. We include;
  • Psychotherapy 
  • Sex therapy 
  • Trauma counseling
  • Professional sex addiction counseling and therapy
  • Relapse prevention
  • Partner counseling and support
  • Specific Relationship counseling after sex addiction
Thanks for taking your time reading. For more information about sexual addiction and treatment options please visit our two website www.sexaddictionaustralia.com.au or www.affirmotive.com.

Article by Heide McConkey, Director Sex Addiction Australia. www.sexaddictionaustralia.com.au and www.affirmotive.com




Friday, July 11, 2014

SYDNEY PROFESSIONAL WORKSHOPS FOR SEX ADDICTS AND PARTNERS

Posted July 3, 2014 in News Updates by Heide McConkey


New one day workshops for Sex Addicts, and Partners of Sex Addicts, commence September, Saturday 27th in Sydney. Please call for obligation free information 02 9380 4486.

Sex Addiction Australia and the Australasian Institute of Sexual Health And Medicine are presenting new workshops to assist sex addicts with a research based understanding of their condition and treatment options, designed for achieving a full recovery.

Partners and spouses of sex addicts will receive strong professional support in understanding and validating their own feelings, caused by their partners sexual addiction. In this workshop partners will learn to develop new strategies of dealing with their new situation. Most partners of sex addicts experience severe post traumatic stress, which requires attention and validation.

These workshops will be presented by two experienced Sexologists, Mr. Brett McCann and Ms. Heide McConkey, who are outstanding specialists in their fields, and making a difference in the treatment of sexual addiction for more than a decade.

These workshops will guide you through an understanding of the causes and development of your sexual addiction, and why you could not stop yourself.

You will learn to use intervention tools and preventing long-term relapse. Sex addicts can fully recover, mend broken trust, and rebuild their relationships.

Who will benefit from these workshops
•  Sexual addicts
•  Partners and spouses of sex addicts
•  Couples
•  Individuals
•  Adults over the age of 18 years, who's lives are touched by sexual addiction

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